Jump Start # 4120
Acts 20:17 “From Miletus he sent to Ephesus and called to him the elders of the church.”
It was a most unusual meeting that I had recently. The days of my time with the Charlestown Road church are quickly coming to an end. The current shepherds asked if I would deliver a “Miletus Meeting” with them before I left. I have never heard of such a thing in modern generations.
In the context of our verse today, Paul was on his way to Jerusalem. He had been warned by God that he would suffer and be bound. Multiple times, brethren tried to talk Paul out of going. But, he was determined. His life was nothing. The cause of the Lord was most important. So, he sets the sails towards Jerusalem. At Miletus, he sent for the Ephesian elders. He loved those brethren. There would be tears as he departed.
Walking through the book of Ephesians, then first and second Timothy, because Timothy was at Ephesus when he got those letters, then Revelation two, there is so much about the Ephesian church. There are many warnings about coming departures from God’s word. This was a valuable, heartfelt meeting. Paul didn’t sugar coat things. He didn’t speak in such generalities that nothing much came of it. He told them to watch and be alert. He warned that even among that body of overseers, some would not be satisfied with God’s way and want to change things.
So, I had my “Miletus Meeting” with my shepherds. Bibles were opened. Discussion was lively, personal and heartfelt. I shared my insights. I gave some recommendations. I told of some concerns. After nearly two decades with these people, I am in the place where I could say some things. The love of the kingdom and the desire for continual excellence and success is what this meeting was built upon.
I find it so rare that churches do not have “Miletus Meetings” more often when preachers move. It may be that the atmosphere with the leaving preacher is not healthy nor good. Many times the leadership is not on the same page and inviting such meetings would only lead to more trouble and more turmoil. Other times, shelpherds may not feel that such a meeting is necessary. We’ve got this is the mentality and there is nothing more that we could gain from such a meeting. That is sad and very unfortunate. All of us are growing and learning and the insights from one another can be very productive.
Here are some thoughts:
First, create an atmosphere where not only is such a meeting welcomed, but that it is a natural extension of many other meetings before this. A culture of excellence only invites the thoughts and insights from others. When we are suspicious of one another, always on the defensive, then critical conversations will never take place.
When the Lord revealed that one of the chosen among them was going to betray Him, they started asking, “Is it I, Lord?” I suspect when Paul told the Ephesian elders that “from among your own selves men will arise speaking perverse things,” they started looking around at each other.
Second, a Miletus meeting only works when love fills the air and kindness is the tone of the tongue. For a preacher to use the moment to put in his final parting shots ruins such an opportunity. And, it not only looks bad on that preacher, but he doesn’t realize that he has ruined it for any preacher who follows. Think about the kingdom and not yourself. Within these Acts 20 sentences, Paul would say, “I do not consider my life of any account as dear to myself, so that I may finish my course and the ministry which I received from the Lord.” Don’t use a Miletus meeting preacher to complain about how you were treated, paid, or didn’t get your way. It’s not about you, preacher. It’s about the continuation of the work. It’s about the future of that congregation.
Third, some preachers are so clueless that they wouldn’t know what to say in a “Miletus Meeting.” It makes me wonder, “What have you been doing all this time, preacher?” Some just want to stand behind the pulpit on a Sunday morning and then be left alone the rest of the time. Some have disengaged from the work that they don’t know what is going on. Shame on such men. Until the very end, get busy in the kingdom and work hard.
Departures can be golden opportunities for powerful Miletus meetings with elders. I’m thankful that I got to be part of one. Simply amazing!
Roger
