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Jump Start # 2090

Jump Start # 2090

Proverbs 5:6 “She does not ponder the path of life; her ways are unstable, she does not know it.”

 

The first section of Proverbs are a dad’s advice to his son. Serious words that would save much pain, heartache and trouble, if only they were listened to and followed. If life allows a person to live long enough, most of us get to stand in both shoes, the child being advised by the parent and the then the parent telling the child.

 

When we are the child, the son, as in this chapter, we think we know. The words of the parent seem too much. What do they know, we think. We listen because we have to. But many of us didn’t listen long and many of us fell into the very trouble that dear ole’ dad was trying to prevent. Years later, as a parent, we use the same words as our parents did to us. We warn our children about the dangers lurking “out there.” It is our prayer that our children will only listen and pay attention. Deep inside, most of us hope that they do a better job of listening than what we did.

 

From chapter five through chapter seven, the warnings are about the adulterous woman. She’s dangerous. She’ll cost you your soul. The naïve child looks only at the beauty and listens to the sweet words that she utters and never sees the dangers that can destroy his soul.

 

  • She is as bitter as wormwood in the end (4)
  • Her feet lead to death (5)

 

Our verse today is what follows. She does not ponder the path of life. She gives no thought to the consequences of her choices. She is unstable and likely to fall any direction. She doesn’t even realize this. She does not ponder the path of life, is a grand statement. It’s in contrast to this man’s son who is thinking about life. He wants to walk with the Lord. He ponders or considers his choices. He thinks about what decisions will do to him. He weighs out in his mind whether or not such things will make him stronger or weaker.

 

Most of society are following the ways of this loose woman. They are not giving thought, they are not pondering life. They might say anything, even if it is mean or hurtful or even untrue. They are likely to do things without much thought. The moment grabs them. They live for now. They don’t think about tomorrow. They don’t think about down the road. Could this be one reason why so many college students flunk out every year? They are partying every night of the week, giving no thought to studying, tests or classes in the morning. It’s the moment that excites them. It’s the moment that they live for. Their shallow thinking and empty planning catches up with them. Not prepared for tests, they flunk.

 

And, many never learn. They get jobs and they continue to live for the moment. Staying up all hours, they become useless at work the next day. They are unable to function because of the headaches they have or the sheer exhaustion from being up too many nights in a roll. They don’t ponder.

 

Others, are caught in this trap by refusing to ponder what life will look like when they are no longer working. They have lived paycheck to paycheck for decades. They’ve saved nothing. They’ve made no plans for the future. And, one day, they are too old or too sick to work. Now, they are in trouble. They have nothing. They never pondered life.

 

But our passage is really driving at the spiritual side of things. Pondering life involves giving serious thought to eternity. Pondering life means giving thought to what happens when we die. Pondering life looks beyond the shiny trinklets that Satan dangles before us each day. It looks to our relationship with the Lord. Pondering life is about investing in God and living for God. It is Christ living in us.

 

Pondering—thinking…considering…dwelling upon…focusing on…meditating. These are the ideas behind pondering. It’s more than living with a purpose, it’s the desire to leave this place better than you found it. It’s helping your family and the congregation become stronger in the Lord. It’s leaving a legacy and footprints that lead to the cross.

 

She did not ponder her path…she didn’t think about how her actions were hurting others. She didn’t think about her choices were going to come to a dead end road. She didn’t think about how helpless and hopeless she was. She just didn’t think about it.

 

Ponder the path you are on. Is the path you are on leading to a strong marriage? Is the path you are on leading to a godly family? Is the path you are on pleasing the Lord? Your path is taking you someone where. Do you know where? She didn’t. She gave it no thought. And, one day she’d be in a lot of trouble and have no idea how she got there. Those that ponder do. They see very clearly where she’s headed. This is why the father is telling his son these things. You ponder your path. You see if your path ought to include her. It won’t if you are trying to please the Lord. It won’t if you want to go to Heaven.

 

No one finds Heaven by accident. It’s not like ancient mariners who accidently discovered new lands. We won’t be doing that. Heaven is designed for those who have pondered their path. They know right where they are going. Every word, every thought, every action—calculated and weighed in the balances of Heaven.

 

Know where the road you are on takes you before you get too far down the road.

 

Roger

 

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Jump Start # 2089

Jump Start # 2089

Proverbs 28:1 “The wicked flee when no one is pursuing, but the righteous are bold as a lion.”

Our verse today is one of the many contrasts and comparisons found in Proverbs. Often, it’s the fool and the wise. Other times, like here, it’s the wicked and the righteous that are looked at side by side. The wicked flees. The wicked flees for no reason. No one is pursuing, but he’s running scared.

 

Why? It may be his conscience. He is wicked. He has done wrong. He fears getting caught. He is always on the run. He is always suspicious. He trusts no one. There is little rest and no peace for the wicked. Ruthless dictators have illustrated that. They distrust the very people they have chosen to surround them. So, one by one, he removes them. Many ancient kings, even in the Bible, assassinated and murdered their own family members, to prevent them from rising up and being rivals to the thrown. The 1930’s, when the FBI was just starting, many of the now famous bandits were gunned down as they fled from authorities. The life of the wicked is always on the run.

 

What a miserable life that is. Too often, using and abusing others to get what he wants and then having to flee when they have found out what has happened. The life on the run has do deep roots and no strong relationships. Some are this way with their jobs. They are always leaving one job for another. It’s not about career moves, money or opportunity, it’s because they have foolishly done wrong and they fear getting caught.

 

In contrast, there is the righteous. He does not fear. He does not flee. He is bold as a lion. There are few things if any that would make a lion run. His size, his presence as earned him the title, ‘the king of the jungle.’ The Wizard of Oz presented the cowardly lion. Those two expressions do not fit together. A lion is not cowardly. What the Oz lion was missing was “the nerve,” or, courage.

 

Bold as a lion in facing those who disagree. When truth is on your side there is nothing to fear. I’ve had people through the years present the idea of what if we are not right? What if when the world is over, we learn that there is no God? What if? Stand bold, Mr. Righteous. There is nothing to fear here nor flee from. There is too much proof, too much evidence, all around us for any other conclusion.

 

What if there are missing books of the Bible? What if we do not have the whole message? Stand bold, Mr. Righteous. Nothing to fear here. There is too much evidence and too much proof for any other answer.

 

Recently, I’ve heard some claiming that Jesus already came. They say He came in the year 70. Because of that there is no resurrection, no Heaven, we missed it all. I wonder why those that say that even worship, much less preach and take money from churches. But there’s nothing to fear here Mr. Righteous. Stand boldly like that lion. There is too much evidence and too much proof for any other conclusion that what the Bible plainly teaches.

 

Underling this contrast between the wicked and the righteous, between fleeing and standing bolding, is faith and courage. When one knows, one can stand. It’s the lack of faith that makes one weak and unsure. This is why the strong breeze of delusion is all it takes to get some off course. They read something in a book. They read a blog. They hear a friend boasting some stuff. Without strong faith, they begin to waver. They wonder. Could it be possible that they are right? And before you know it, they are fleeing. They leave what they once believed. They now dwell in the land of doubt.

 

The Ephesians were told to no longer be tossed here and there by the winds of false doctrine, by deceitful scheming, by craftiness of men. Stand firm. Grow up. Be mature in your faith. Those are the very things that gives us the courage like that lion.

 

When one knows truth, he knows what is right. He doesn’t have to know everything that is wrong to know what is right. He stands where God wants him to be. Courageous. Strong. Steadfast. Unmovable. Like a tree firmly planted with deep roots. The wicked is running here and there, always on the go, never accomplishing much of anything, but the righteous stays put. He stays with God. He knows. Nothing will move him.

 

He knows evolution isn’t true. He doesn’t have to be a scientist, he knows the word of God. He knows same-sex marriages are not right. He doesn’t have to swim in the cultural pool of ideology, what is fair, genetics and so forth. He knows the word of God. He stands, bold as a lion.

 

What is turning so many young people today to teachings that are not Biblical is a lack of strong faith. The very idea that “I am spiritual, but not religious,” comes from someone who lacks true understanding in God’s word. They will accept anything because it feels good, is different and is new. They are chasing the wind. They won’t stay with their new found insights for long. Soon, they will be off chasing something else. Always fleeing from the one thing that will give them meaning, purpose, and hope, the word of God.

 

So, we must continue to teach the word of God. Don’t back down from challenges, questions or those who want to throw darts at your faith. Hang in there. Stand your ground. Be bold. Be that lion. Remember Peter before the Jewish officials who ordered no more preaching in Jesus’ name. Peter preached. They recognized the boldness of Peter. He wasn’t afraid. He wasn’t backing down. He wasn’t going to be pressured. Bold as the lion.

 

The wicked runs because they are not right. They have a lot of bark and a lot of volume but they lack proof, evidence and the support of God’s word.

 

We sing, “Stand up, stand up for Jesus.” There is nothing to be afraid of when you are standing with God.

Roger

 

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Jump Start # 2088

Jump Start # 2088

Matthew 5:14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.”

We have been looking closely at the concept of a welcoming church. It is important to make the right impression upon visitors. In our final segment of this series, we want to notice what others notice. Nice buildings that are bright, clean and cheerful are important, but congregations cannot compete with schools, big business and other organizations when it comes to having a PR team, unlimited resources and a full time staff devoted just to making the right experience for the visitor. The Disney experience is impressive, but the church isn’t Disney. Yet, we still can step things up a notch or two.

 

What will impress visitors is not what we believe. It’s not the doctrine. Offering the Lord’s Supper every Sunday is not something most have thought about. It’s not a game changer when it comes to visiting. Your concept of the trinity, life after death, and baptism, is important to us, but not high on the list of visitors. Many websites will have pages and pages about doctrinal teachings. I suppose they think that this is what will draw the visitor. Most often, it does not. There is something else that will catch the eye of the visitor.

 

Most have never seen true compassion, forgiveness and love, at least not in real life. They hear about it in the movies, but that’s just the movies. They don’t see it at work. It’s dog eat dog at work. They don’t see it as they drive along the streets. It’s not seen in stores. And, for many of them, it’s not seen at home. Christianity in practice is grace, compassion and forgiveness. To witness real people showing this is special, unique and it is eye catching.

 

Most have never seen marriages that are strong, thriving and happy. Marriages that are decades old, but fresh, close and beautiful. The world knows divorce. The world knows affairs, infidelity and adultery. Marriage, as shown in the sitcoms, is dull, lifeless and ugly. It’s the single people, on TV and in the movies, that have amazing sex, days filled with laughter and adventure. But once married, all the fun and life seems to be gone. Older couples holding hands. Older couples smiling at one another. Most have never seen anything like that. Arguing at each other is the norm.

 

Most have never seen the heart of a servant. Sure some will volunteer here and there for some community project, but that doesn’t happen much. To see those helping out in worship and serving others without any strings attached is something that is not seen very often.

 

The point of our passage is that our faith cannot be hidden. Like that city sitting high up on a hill, it is visible all around. When darkness falls, that city stands out. Around us in this dark world, the faith of Christians stands out. It cannot be hidden. If Christ is truly within us, we will put on a heart like His. Kindness, grace, love and forgiveness will be the foundation of each of us. Big tough guys, have a tender heart in Jesus. Those who have rough edges, have smoothed them down in Jesus. The eyes of the Christian are always looking to make a difference. They are always there to help someone. Before and after services, multiple conversations take place. Some are light and filled with laughter. Others, though, are serious. There are hugs. There are offers made to come and help. The atmosphere fills the air of people that truly care for one another.

 

For many people today, going to church services is like going to a movie. When I go, it’s for what’s on the screen. When I see people coming down my row, I hope that they don’t sit beside me. I only talk to the people who are with me. When the movie is over, I go home. I don’t stick around in the lobby to talk to strangers. There is no fellowship in this. There is no connection. I have been to some afternoon movies in which I was the only person in the theatre. I loved it. This is the experience many have had in worship. Come. Say very little. Sit by yourself. Leave. It’s all about what’s up on stage. No connections and no fellowship.

 

This is not N.T. worship. It is about connections. It is about fellowship. It is about helping one another. It is about listening, sharing and being there. It is handshakes, hugs and heart felt love. It is being accepted and being part of a spiritual family. That is odd for so many today. Their physical family is a mess. Many have lived alone so long that they do not understand what it is like to belong. They have never seen a church family that supports each other. They have never been a part of a church family.

 

When there is a death, the funeral home is crowded with the church family. Often, they didn’t even know the person who passed away, but they knew he meant something to one of their members, so they came. They come bringing food. When a mother has a baby, they come with food. They come to clean the house. They come with diapers. When someone has been in the hospital, they come. They show up and cut the yard. They flood the mailbox with cards. This seems so odd to the world, but it is so normal for us. This is what we do. We don’t think about this. This is Christianity. This is service.

 

I have seen a person sitting alone in the surgery waiting room. I have seen a person alone in the funeral home. How sad. No one to comfort. No one to shed a tear with. No one to help pass the time. No one to be there for. No family—physical or spiritual.

 

What catches the eyes of the visitor is not what we believe, but whether or not we care. Outside of Christ, and some immediate families, care is missing. It’s simply not there. It has made people hard and it has turned them into loners. But through Christ, they find a group of people who care. This is something new, fresh and inviting. This is something that has been missing in their lives.

 

Impressions. Welcoming. Inviting. Maybe we ought to think about the compassion more. Maybe we’d find more being interested because they see that we really do care.

 

In a couple of weeks I hope to put these lessons together in a new booklet that we will call “A church that welcomes.” If you’d like one (or more), they are always free, drop me an email (Rogshouse@aol.com). This will make our 23rd Jump Start booklet.

 

Roger

 

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Jump Start # 2087

Jump Start # 2087

Luke 15:2 “Both the Pharisees and the scribes began to grumble, saying, ‘This man receives sinners and eats with them.’”

We continue our series on impressions, becoming a welcoming church. A congregation can clean up both the insides and the outsides of their church building. They can hang nice signs. They can spruce up the landscaping. They can stream line the announcements. They can put page numbers of the pew Bibles on the screen. All wonderful ideas that we have explored in this series. But there remains one colossal idea that beats all the others. Do all the others and forget this, and you’ll fail to become a welcoming church. It comes down to how we treat visitors.

Our verse today, taken before the powerful parables of Jesus about lost things, shows how the Pharisees viewed those who were different than they were. They grumbled. They didn’t like it. Jesus’ reply to them was the three parables of lost sheep, coin and boys. God cares for the lost. He never said, ‘you got lost on your own, find your own way back.’ Rather, the shepherd went looking. The woman swept the house. The father kept his eye on the horizon. God never gave up on finding what was lost.

As we think about inviting folks to come and worship with us, there are some things that we must remember. Forgetting this, spells disaster. Forgetting this hurts feelings and ruins chances of anyone every coming back again.

First, people of the world belong to the world. They dress like the world. Understand this. Patience is the key. So someone shows up one Sunday morning, as they walk into the building, they flip a cigarette out on the sidewalk. Someone sees that. Red flags go up. They smell of smoke. Immediately, some shun, ignore and walk on past this visitor.

Someone else comes for a visit. They carry a cup of coffee with them. It’s all very normal for them. Where they go to church, they even sell coffee. Someone sees that. Red flags go up. Immediately, some shun, ignore and walk past the visitor.

Someone else comes for a visit. They are wearing shorts and flip flops. It’s what they wear in the summer. Someone sees that. Red flags go up. Immediately, some shun, some ignore and walk past the visitor. People whisper. People look at them. The tension level rises. Although the lesson is about the love and compassion of Jesus, it’s not felt by these visitors. They didn’t know. They weren’t told. They don’t understand.

Someone goes up to them and lets it be known that they are not dressed appropriately. They are told that this is not a coffee shop. They are told to stop smoking. The member speaks his mind and walks away. The stunned visitor doesn’t even know who it is that spoke to them. Embarrassed, they leave. They leave with the promise to never return again. They leave thinking that this place is unloving and judgmental. They leave with hurt feelings and they leave without knowing Jesus. The member who corrected them feels good about his actions. He kept the place in order as he thinks it should be. If they don’t come back, he tells others, they simply don’t love the Lord. Really?

Herein lies some great problems.

First, we can’t expect people of the world to live by the rules of Christianity when they don’t know Christ. Correcting them about their appearance, drinking coffee or smoking misses the big picture. These are surface issues. People of the world are not going to dress nor act like Christians. Once there was a guy who was so excited about getting some free material, that he uttered a loud cuss word. He was happy. Everyone looked. We aren’t used to people cussing in the church building. People of the world aren’t used to not cussing.

Tattoos, piercings, rough language, couples that are living together, some who are addicts, jobless—that’s the world we live in today. Stop looking for the nice couple with two kids and a dog and a paid off house. Look who came to Jesus. It was the demon possessed, the lepers, and as our passage shows, “the sinners.” Who is it that needs the physician? The sick. Spiritual sickness can look messy. It comes with layers of issues and lots of baggage. So, we need to stop expecting people of the world to act like Christians. Be patient with them. Be kind to them. Pay a little attention to them, and they may just find what they were looking for, compassion, acceptance and hope. Telling anyone that they are not welcome is more than unloving, it lacks Christ. A couple shows up and they are divorced multiple times. Do you have the right to say to them, “you can’t come here?” Is that something that Jesus would do?

Second, even with new Christians, there is a growth period. It takes time to learn things and get over things that are wrong. Habits can be deep within us. The older some get, the grumpier some become. Don’t be that way. Long ago, you had to learn. Instead of being critical, be helpful. Instead of pointing the radar gun, extend a hand. I’ve heard young Christians say the “wrong things” in prayer. If that isn’t handled correctly, the young Christian could be crushed by criticism. He may never lead a public prayer again, and worse, he may just quit all together. I knew a teenager that passed the Lord’s Supper wearing flip flops. It was noticed. Some complained. Some complained to me. I declared that his shoes were more like Jesus’ than mine. He could have been behind the building smoking dope. Instead, he was serving in the kingdom. I was happy to have him. That shocked some who were looking for support in their complaints. One person said, “Jesus shoes? Well, I’ve never heard such thinking like that before.” Too many young preachers have been destroyed by insensitive and impatient brethren who expected perfection. Don’t be like that. Be the friend and the mentor that makes a real difference in someone’s life.

Third, be patient and people will learn. I’ve seen some hold their hands up during prayer. Nothing wrong with that. I’ve seen some talking out during the sermon. I’ve seen some bowing when everyone else was standing. I was preaching at one place, and every time I took a breath, a lady would say very loudly, “Yes, Jesus.” She must have “yes Jesus” a hundred times. Now, I could have just stopped and declared, “Only one of us is going to preach.” I could have made a scene and made her feel terrible. But I didn’t. I just preached away. Was she wrong in doing that? I didn’t think much about it. I was glad that she was listening.

We want visitors. We love company on Sundays. However, you have to know what you’re going to get. Rather than sticking your nose up in the air and running them off, learn to love them. Learn to listen to them. Don’t avoid them. Don’t walk away from them. Someday, that very person that disgusts you now, may get up and preach the pure message of Jesus Christ! Invite a visitor to sit with you.

Just as I am…remember that song? Not cleaned up and wearing a tie. Not all my faults ironed out. Just as I am. That may be a mess. That may need a lot of work. But, that’s what we sing and it’s supposed to be what we believe.

Roger

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Jump Start # 2086

Jump Start # 2086

Ezekiel 3:15 “Then I came to the exiles who lived beside the river Chebar at Tel-abib, and I sat there seven days where they were living, causing consternation among them.”

 

The prophet Ezekiel sat with the exiles. He sat where they sat. That’s a profound thought when we consider the impressions we make with visitors. We are continuing some thoughts about becoming a welcoming church. A common expression today is “user friendly.” We want phones that do everything, yet are easy to use. We want technology that is easy to understand. We hate buying something new and along with it comes a user guide that is as thick as the phone book. This gave birth to the series of books entitled, “Dummies.” Cell phones for Dummies. Powerpoint for Dummies. Those books expanded beyond technology to: Golf for Dummies, and even, Parenting for Dummies.

 

We would do well to follow the lead of Ezekiel and sit where the visitor sits. We may find that our language and our services are not very user friendly. We do things that we all understand, but for the first time visitor, it may seem very odd to him.

 

We use the expression, “Gospel Meeting.” We understand what that means. A visiting preacher is invited to come and speak for a few days. A lot of publicity is used to promote this. Other congregations are invited. The church is encouraged to invite family and friends. “Come to our Gospel Meeting next week,” we say to a co-worker. We know what we mean by that. He doesn’t. Gospel Meeting? He has meetings at work. They are long and boring. So now, he’s invited to come to a Gospel MEETING? Doesn’t sound so exciting from his standpoint. Maybe a better expression would be “Bible lessons,” or “teachings from the Bible.”

 

Also, we tend to promote the speaker rather than the topics. For instance, “Come here, Roger preach this week.” You and I may know who Roger is (I think I do), but for your co-worker, he has never heard of him. He doesn’t know anything about him. Wouldn’t it be better to emphasize the topic rather than the speaker? Come here a Bible lesson about “Life, the way it was meant to be.” Or, come here a lesson about, “Heaven– what do you expect?” Interesting. Lesson driven rather than preacher driven.

 

I sat where they sat. Consider that many people do not know the Bible, especially the order of the books of the Bible. We’ve known the books of the Bible since we were kids. Most don’t. They might get, Matthew-Mark-Luke-John, but don’t be surprised if they are looking around in the Old Testament for Corinthians. So, a visitor comes, and everyone knows where to look, but he doesn’t. It won’t take very long and he will feel like he is in a secret society and he’s an outsider and doesn’t belong. What can be done? If the church uses pew Bibles, page numbers could be referred to. The preacher could help identify where he is at. Someone sitting next to a visitor could help out. Passages could be listed on the screen.

 

Along with that, there are certain words that most of us know but the visitor may not. A miracle—we understand that a miracle is God suspending the laws of nature. A miracle cannot happen naturally. The visitor doesn’t know that. He hears that word used every day. It’s a miracle he made it to work on time with the traffic the way it was. It was a miracle that his son didn’t miss the bus today. To the visitor, a miracle is just getting something done by the skin of your teeth and it’s an everyday event. He doesn’t understand how rare, special and powerful Biblical miracles are. So, being user friendly, sitting where he sits, the preacher needs to take just a moment to explain words so everyone is on the same page in understanding. Don’t assume that everyone has heard of the flood. Not so. Everyone knows, the preacher thinks, the story of Daniel in the lion’s den. No, they haven’t, and especially the details behind the story. It’s like sitting down and playing a game with some friends. If everyone knows the game, you just begin playing. But if there is one person who has never played before, it’s all foreign to him. You have to explain things and sometimes even have a practice round. You have to sit where he sits to bring him up to understanding.

 

What all takes place during worship is another thing that most of us are very comfortable with. We know that on Sunday we may start with a song or a prayer. Then a few more songs. Then the Lord’s Supper. A reading of Scriptures, followed by a preacher delivering a sermon. More songs. Announcements. Prayer. We’ve done this for years. It runs very smooth for us. But for the first time visitor, everything is new and strange to him. He doesn’t know what’s coming next. He doesn’t know what to expect. He sees a plate being passed and everyone around him is putting in checks. He didn’t bring his checkbook. What will happen? Will he be sent a bill? Does he have to pay before he leaves? How much is this going to cost? He didn’t think about this. No one told him. He didn’t know about this. You and I laugh at such things, but sitting where he sits, this suddenly becomes very uncomfortable. He notices different men getting up to do things. Some get up and lead a prayer. Some get up and pass the communion. Is he expected to get up and do something? Will he have to speak? Again, what we know is a warm and encouraging experience, could become very frightening for someone who doesn’t know.

 

Listing the order of services in the bulletin or on the screen might help. Having a friendly face greet him when he enters might help. Having someone explain things might help. Sitting where he sits. User friendly. We’ve forgotten that and taken that for granted.

 

As the visitor leaves, he notices some literature that seems interesting. There are some sermon CD’s in a rack. He doesn’t know how much they cost nor who he is supposed to pay. He doesn’t know that they are free. He doesn’t know that the church has provided these tools for times such as these. He has visited other places where they charge for the CD’s. Again, signs, ushers, friendly faces can help with all of that.

 

Take a serious look at your building, your worship, the words being used. Are they understandable to a visitor? Does it make sense to someone who has never been there before? Is it user friendly? Have you sat where they sat and looked at things through their eyes?

 

It’s wonderful to invite family and friends to our services. But if that’s as far as it goes, and they leave confused, scared and uncertain, there is a good chance that they will never come back. Make it inviting, warm and friendly. You do that by sitting where they sit and seeing things through their eyes.

 

Roger